When Sweetu wasn’t being reduced to merely existing as a bride, as a piece of meat to be handled and prodded, to have decorative contraptions stuck into her skull, her interests were otherwise unexpressed. She rarely complained, hardly asked for anything, and maybe that’s because Indian girls grow up going to weddings and we watch the procedure and we know our roles: be demure, don’t complain, cry but don’t scream, get tea for anyone older than you, and calmly meet expectations. Scaachi Koul
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Sweetu was the wife of a man who had more than enough money to keep his family in nice things. He also had two other wives, who were treated similarly. The families did get along well and had fun together at gatherings. However, when it came to the marriage ceremony, the Hindu ceremony, they did not go through with it.

They just pretended it had happened and were happy with that. They did not talk about it or explain their reasons to the other women. In this case, Sweetu stayed quiet as a result of her husband’s treatment of her.

She knew she was being treated badly and felt obligated to keep silent about it.

Source: One Day Well All Be Dead And None Of This Will Matter

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